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Resources on Polyamory, Relationships, and Sexuality

1. Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients) by Martha Kauppi (2021)
Comprehensive, practical, and grounded in clinical experience, this book is a valuable resource for both therapists and individuals exploring polyamory. It offers in-depth guidance on navigating the complexities of consensual non-monogamy with clarity and care.

2. Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino (2008)
Highly recommended for anyone considering or beginning to practice polyamory. This book offers thoughtful discussion prompts, guidance on creating agreements, tools for managing jealousy, and practical advice on building ethical open relationships.

3. The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson (2013)
While not specifically about polyamory, this book explores how couples can create new relationship agreements following breaches of trust. It’s especially helpful for partners who want to engage in honest conversations about desires, boundaries, and expectations.

4. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel (2007)
A must-read for anyone interested in the dynamics of desire and intimacy in long-term relationships. Perel’s insights are rich, nuanced, and delivered with her signature wisdom and warmth.

5. The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy (1997–2017)
One of the foundational texts on polyamory, this book has changed lives and sparked global conversations about ethical non-monogamy. It’s engaging, empowering, and remains highly relevant. (The BBC’s The Book of Polyamory, available on BBC Sounds, explores its cultural impact.)

6. Untrue by Wednesday Martin (2018)
This provocative book challenges long-held assumptions about female sexuality. Drawing on new scientific research, Martin explores whether women are truly wired for monogamy, offering a refreshing and radical perspective on desire and fidelity.

7. Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá (2010)
A thought-provoking and entertaining exploration of human sexual evolution. The authors argue that monogamy is a relatively recent social construct, shaped by agriculture and private property. Much like Untrue, this book invites readers to rethink conventional assumptions about love and mating.